PLAN

About SchmidtThey call it ‘Plan’ but it’s a charity all about sponsoring impoverished children (my first thought was something like Planned Parenthood). Founded in 1937 Plan is the oldest and largest organization dedicated to caring for children in poorer countries (not limited to third world as one might assume). They techinically are a “private, not for profit, nonsectarian organization”, meaning you can view annual reports they publish openly.

The thing that caught my attention about Plan is their advocation of the movie About Schmidt. Played by Jack Nicholson, Schmidt is a miserable man who only pretends to be happy for the good of everyone around him. He goes through life taking himself for granted. Only through the sponsorship of a Plan child does Schmidt learn what an impact he can have on another human being. The movie is at once depressing and thought provoking and I wouldn’t have seen it without the endorsement of Plan.

For more information about sponsoring an impoverished child, go here.

American Diabetes Association…again

The American Diabetes Association sent me yet another mailing. The third since January 1, 2007. That means three nickels, three “dear friend” letters, three sheets of address labels. Speaking of the address labels, my real friends could take one look at them and know they aren’t my style. These labels don’t prompt me to donate. Colorful pumps and mules, flowery hats, pink and plump purses. Bright colors and cartoonish, I don’t feel compelled to donate based on getting them.
Yet, I feel bad. My mother was just warning my sister and me about limiting our sugar intake because of our family history. Diabetes is in the jeans and not just the back pocket. Still, I feel pressured because of the multiple mailings. Maybe that was their plan all along. Tricky.
They say every nickel counts yet they keep sending them to me.

1959

Davis, Thulani. 1959. New York: Grove Weidenfeld. 1992.1959

Part novel, part historical rampage 1959 is 100% rich in descriptive imagery. 1959 is the story of Katherine “Willie” Tarrant, a coming of age girl growing up in racially divided Turner, Virginia. She has all the typical angst of any twelve year old – boys, makeup, popularity, daydreams driven by movies and celebrity fanfare. Woven into Willie’s world is the climate of the times. Segregation and integration push-pull of a racially divided era. While some of Davis’s story is told in first person from Willie’s point of view, much of the political, historical meat of the story is third person – conversations Willie overhears, meetings she eavesdrops on and situations she couldn’t have possibly been in. (Like during a sex scene and towards the end of the novel when Cole gets shot on a desolate road outside Turner.) There were times when I couldn’t believe a twelve year old was my guide, “With each grind your thighs would become sex weapons blowing away his cool” (p56). What kid speaks like that? “Death brought out banquets as if the mourners were starved by their loss, and yet the grievers never ate” (p 195).
What made this book such a page turner for me (I read it in less than a week) was the tension of the times. It builds slowly with the talk of school integration and builds after eight black college boys sit at a white only Woolworth’s counter, quietly demanding service. Davis masterfully weaves fictional characters with the undeniable historical truth of what really happened. I could hear the dogs bark, feel the sting of hate, see the bravery in the protester’s faces. Even though school integration didn’t happen for another six years, 1959 proved to be the catalyst for change and Davis captured it brilliantly.

BookLust Twist: From More Book Lust in the chapter called, “Southern-Fried Fiction: Virginia” (p 209).

Knit Nut Week 1

Knitting was another one of those things I loved doing but could never claim to be any good at. In fact, if anything, I could only brag I was proficient at making one thing: four sided shapes. Squares and rectangles seemed to be my forte and I would create them all the time. If I was feeling ambitious I would take all my squares and rectangles and stitch them together to make something really spectacular, a blanket. I did that once. I made my mother a blanket shortly after dad passed away. It’s coming apart at the seams, but she still has it. My crowning achievement. My pride and joy. I had grand designs to do it again for my honeymoon.
After years of making four sided shapes I sensed hints of bigger and better things from my family. Gifts in the form of knitting books, gift certificates to yarn stores and skeins of same-weight yarn whispered the potential to make something more complicated. Either my family had faith in me to move onto something more complex or they were sick of seeing squares. I’m not sure. After all, the honeymoon blanket is still in pieces. When my mother-in-law presented me with two technique books and yet another gift certificate to a yarn store I caved and bought myself lessons. First time, beginner to knitting lessons. Never mind that I’ve built a blanket. Never mind that I know the difference between knit and purl, long tail cast on and garter stitch. Never mind all that. Truth be told, I wanted to learn how to knit with two hands. I wanted to learn how to avoid digging one needle into my hip for support. I wanted to learn how to knit standing up. If there was such a thing as proper knitting I wanted to learn it.

Today was the first class. As with anything involving social graces I was worried sick I would be the fool. With only five of us in the class I was worried I would be the sore thumb in a handful of graceful fingers. The palm was against me: two mother-daughter pairs and little ole me. I told kisa it would have been nice to have my mother there. I was envious of the heads bowed close together, counting each other stitches, admiring each others’ rows. Gentle murmurs of “that looks great honey” and “did you see how she picked up that stitch?” They whispered back and forth while I worded nothing to nobody.
Sometime later their conversations spilled like marbles out to me and I picked up a few. We talked cable television. We talked parenting. We talked Food Network. I found a kindred spirit in one of the daughters. Not wanting kids or commitment she was the coolest of the bunch. We talked Alton Brown and agreed that cable packages should be pick and choose show specific. We’d only want the cooking shows.
At the end of the class I learned a few new things about knitting. I’ve been doing it right all along. Imagine that. The hip was a crutch I can now throw away.

Hell or High Hail

Me, myself & moi, we were the exact opposite of this as we went running in the rain, hail, snow. I had an on again, off again relationship with indecision. Should I run? Looking at the weather I thought not. Looking at my state of mind I thought yes. Finally, I settled on taking a chance with yes.
I took BG out with me and he told me stories about being the next “whatever.” His joking kept me going. Rain soaked me through and I needed something to put one foot in front of the other. Laughing always works. I look insane, but it works. By the time I hit the bike path the rain was going right through me. By the time I hit the first stop sign it was starting to bounce off me and it hurt. Hail. It looked like the tiny beads of styrofoam they fill beanbag chairs with. Small, round, white…and pelting.
I had a small conversation with my knee. Not happy about the run, not run attitude I have had of late, she protested a little. I moved to the dogs’ side of the path and immediately started watching my feet. Broken pen, neon green barrette, empty bottle, dirt crusted button, a scrap of torn paper, another pen, dog sh!t, rusted bottle cap, shards of bark, broken glass, the debris from lives carried on without thought. I thought about the neon green barrette and wondered if it was worn in the hair of a little girl too young to tell her mom it dropped from the stroller’s height. I pictured her staring back at it lying in the dirt, watching it get smaller and smaller as she is pushed away. I thought about the pens. Who would write on a bike path? Was this a shortcut for a business man? A source of inspiration for a budding poet with bigger aspirations than paycheck?
The hail started to mix with snow and it was time to head for home. I learned an inspiration trick from a running magazine – run a bath right before heading out. The faster you get through your run, the warmer the bath will be. As the hail pelted me and the snow chilled my skin to red I thought about the hot bath waiting for me. I couldn’t wait to climb inside. Come hell or high high I made it through.

Party

This picture has absolutely nothing to do with the blog other than it’s a party…and the fact someone in this picture is celebrating a birthday today. Happy Birthday, my friend! XOXO

Leftovers. The very word implies discarded, used up, tired, unwanted. This morning I made french toast with Easter old challah bread and bottom-of-the-quart strawberries. Food leftover from the family visit. The french toast was better than the original purpose of any of these ingredients. Oddly enough.

There are leftovers all over my apartment. Empty plastic eggs, a sad deflated rabbit, sticky Scooby stickers and an Easter cake fast drying out. I’m at a loss as to what to do with the remains of a visit gone by. We never touched half the food I bought in preparation. I don’t know what I thought I was preparing for but it never happened. The only thing worth keeping around is the blooming Easter lily that fills my kitchen with the heady scent of the spring that refuses to arrive.
This afternoon I’ll fold up the blankets, put away the books, clean out the fridge, dismantle the crib and throw out the rabbit head. The party is over. It’s like traveling across the country and stopping along the way to look at some amusement park or scenic landscape. The party is over so it’s time to get back on the road.

Chuck Lelas Memorial

chuckIt dawned on me in the middle of my lasagna that the Chuck Lelas Memorial 10k walk/run is next month almost to the day. I haven’t run an inch since March…early March. If you do the math, a 10k isn’t a stroll in the park. It’s over six freakin’ miles. That’s many, many, many inches.

The background (my background) on the CLM walk/run is this. My friend S asked me to walk it with her two years ago. I think we came in dead last. At least, after we crossed the finish line they shut the clock off…what does that tell you? No matter. We were having too good of a time gabbing to really worry about PRs and beating the clock (as if!). I skipped last year’s walk due to a little 13.1 miler I was running for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, but this year I’m back…and stressing about half that distance.

Briefly, the Chuck Lelas Memorial Walk/Run is dubbed the “You Gotta Have Heart” event and this marks the 4th year of it’s existence. The money goes for scholarships in Chuck’s name. My personal tie to this charity event? S and the fact that Chuck was a coach where I work.
For more information go here. In the meantime, I’m off the to the gym!

Can’t Love You Enough

                                                            Chipotle

My husband went to Denver for a week. For a week. That’s a long time when you never get sick of someone. It would be different if we needed head space or elbow room. Our body parts didn’t need distance. Always questioning what’s in it for me I discovered the only benefit of putting my kisa in Denver is Chipotle. I dare anyone to find me a better burrito. Definitely dare you. Chipotle has its own wiki page for Frank’s Sake!
I can’t love Chipotle enough. The affair started in 2000. I was introduced to a chicken, double salsa, cilantro-lime rice, black bean, cheddar cheese & sour cream cylinder of goodness within moments of arriving in Denver. Love at first bite. Heaven and Hell. Heaven because I had never tasted anything so good. Hell because it didn’t exist on the eastern seaboard. I was hooked. Caught up in the pleasure and pain of I-Have-To-Eat-The-Whole-Thing. So full I had to unzip my pants, but I finished it…satisfied.
I left Denver in ignorance and innocence having not yet learned of transcontinental burrito travel. Once home I wrote bigwig Joe Stupp of my adoration for his chicken burrito and my lament at leaving the land of yum. He wrote back with coupons, good for youknowwhats and the assurance that Chipotle would dominate the east coast very soon. (As of today, four have invaded New York City.)
How much do I love these bomblike burritos? At Christmas 2001 a friend was detained at the airport and nearly missed his flight. He was searched because he carried a suspicious silver cylinder. His crime? Bringing me a frozen burrito wrapped in aluminum. I joined the fan-club in 2000. I get their email newsletter despite the fact it would take me three hours to order from the nearest menu.

Today, I am enjoying a chicken, double salsa, cheese, bean and rice number courtesy of being separated from my husband. Courtesy of a long distance love affair. I can’t love you enough.
burrito

Komen for the Cure

Susan KomenOkay, so the whole charity name is Susan G. Komen for the Cure. The name change is to show their commitment to fighting breast cancer. Okay. I can understand the need for new energy. Just last week I watched a CNN program on how cancer research hasn’t progressed very much. Oh sure, we’re learning all the different ways cancer can crop up. It seems like everything these days “causes cancer.” But, we’re not researching the hot ticket – the real reason why people die from cancer. According to Lance Armstrong we need to focus more on why and how a cancer spreads – metastasizes. If that’s where Komen for the Cure is headed then good for them.
In this particular packet they sent me a membership card. I’m not sure how to take that. It’s not like a diner’s card that gets me special privileges.  Card carrying for cancer – what a concept.

ps~ I met a man who says his wife works for the “other” breast cancer foundation and I shouldn’t mention Komen in her presence. Has the work gone mad? Shouldn’t they be working towards the same thing instead of against each other? Well, I guess that’s corporate America for you – we compete even when it comes to cures for cancer.

Ahab’s Wife

Naslund, Sena Jeter. Ahab’s Wife or, The Star-Gazer. New York: HarperCollins, 1999.Ahab

This took me forever to read! I tried to twice before starting the BookLust Challenge and practically groaned when I saw it on “the list.” It’s not that it isn’t a wonderful book. It is. It’s beautifully written for sure. The only problem is that is it so long! Una’s marriage to Ahab, the namesake title, Ahab’s Wife doesn’t come to pass until page 359! There’s a bit of back and forth on the timeline but all of that is explained at the end.
My other “issue”? Una’s life experiences are shocking yet she handled every single one with heroic resolve. Nothing fazes her for very long. Her father committed suicide, her mother froze to death, her first born died, her first husband went mad, she experienced cannibalism first hand, she braved hurricanes, blizzards and fires. Laced in with all the events are the scientific, political, and sociological happens of the era. Una is submerged in it all: slavery, the womens movement, astronomy. Many famous people parade through the second half of the novel.  
Despite the length of Naslund’s story, I loved the language. There were passages that held my attention and caused me to read them over and over. “I have ever feared the weathervane in me. I point toward Independence, isolation. Sometimes I rotate- my back to Independence – and I need and want my friends, my family. with a force like a gale” (p190). I too, find myself wanting to be alone much of the time. Yet, when I need the ones true to my heart the longing comes over me strong and hard. I can relate. Another passage I identified with was on the very next page, “The very atoms I’m made of come apart in a kind of sparkle. A cloud of sparkle propelled by will” (p191). It reminded me of that partical theory I have.
Probably the best part of Ahab’s Wife or, The Star Gazer is the many, many references to literature. If I had more time I would create a reading list from everything Una mentions in her narrative. Shakespeare, Keats, Thoreau, Frederick Douglass to name a few…

BookLust Twist: From More Book Lustin the chapter of  “Lines that linger, sentences that stick” (p143). Pearl points out the opening sentence “Captain Ahab was neither my first husband nor my last.” 

Medicins Sans Frontiers Thank You

MSFMedicins Sans Frontiers/Doctors Without Borders sent me two mailings back to back. Instantly I thought of that saying, “the left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing” because in one envelope they were asking for donations. In the second, they were thanking me for the January 2007 donation I had given. I guess in their minds their work is never done, therefore mine shouldn’t be either. After all, I did say it is my favorite charity.
In the thank you packet they sent me a poster outlining the progress they have made from 1971 to present. A black and white photo of a small child receiving medical attention is framed by a timeline of important historical events in the existence of DWB. The poster’s title is in white, “Independence. Impartiality. Commitment. From 1971 to today.” I hung it on my filing cabinet in my office. I face those words every day.

In the “You can do more” letter DWB described the effects of cholera on Zambia’s capital of Lusaka. It’s a small message but powerful just the same. Look at what we still face, even today.
I think of the volunteers of MSF/DWB as angels on earth. When a friend casually said, “my dentist used to do that – for several months a year” I instantly wanted to meet this tooth guy…until I learned he was killed by a stray bullet while trying to remove plaque from a child’s mouth. Again, look at what we STILL face, even today.

Jesus?

Dear You,

It’s only 8:30p-ish but I wish for sleep. I have been battling a raging headache all day. I cancelled diner plans with A in the hopes of soothing the angry head. So far it has only quit the yelling but not the pounding.

Saw a short video today that caught my heart. Home. MyWeirdSpace is the devil of networking. I don’t know how it was sent to me but I saw Manana through someone else’s eyes. It was all so strange. I wonder if sis has seen it? Remind me to play it for you when you get home. Are you coming back, aren’t you? Just kidding. My sense of humor is off balance tonight.

Tomorrow I grocery shop. I just hope it doesn’t snow. Again. Portland was bamboozle by a spring blizzard. I heard the words “state of emergency” on the news. Even walking to my car I was shocked by the strength of the cold. Such a sucker punch for spring. It’s hard to imagine daffodil days’ donations. At any rate, I’ve turned the heat back on and now regret the packed parka.

love, me

Go Your Own Way

S came to visit last night. Talk talk talk talk. She would ask a question and I would say “well, that’s a whole ‘nother story!” On and on, catching up.
Somehow we got on the subject of letting go of friends. This is something that has come up for me a few times. BubbleGum mentioned “letting go of toxic relationships” in a blog about plane crashes (October 29, 2006 if you are interested), Klein went on a multi-blog rant about the friends she has Let Go (February 12, 2007 is the first one). Those of you who read my other blog know I went through a friend purge almost two years ago. (wow. has it really been that long?) Maybe if I get gutsy I’ll repost that Dear John letter.
This time we talked about not a purge, not a letting go, but rather a slipping away. There was a definite break in the friendship and how it all came about saddened me, for sure, but I guess I never really thought about the finality of it all. It didn’t occur to me it was the end of the end of the end. I guess I always assumed something would come up and we would talk again. Something in common would bring us back together instead of keep us apart. Or something. Yet, like a candle going out our friendship quietly silently darkened and the wisps of memory faded away to nothing. Now you seem ’em, now you don’t. I don’t know which disturbs me more – the fact that I didn’t notice or the realization that I didn’t care.
Even when a brief conversation renewed our communication I felt nothing. It was if I talked to a stranger and was waiting for familiarity to show up. Something that would link the word “friend” to this face. Nothing.Do we grow apart because we can? Does it happen so easily because secretly we never liked them in the first place? I don’t think that’s what happened here. What is the opposite of falling in love? That time when the more you know the more you don’t love?

We dreamed of ’57 chevies and rock and roll guitars. We chewed grape bubblegum and swigged orange soda. We wore bandannas on our ankles and hearts on our sleeves. Eye shadow was blue and sneakers pink. When the candle of friendship was snuffed out no one had a match. Go your own way.

Last Phish

Dear You,
In honor of Jon I post this pic. I didn’t write my traditional dear you last night because S and I stayed talking until latelate. It was good to catch up although I think I have a sore throat now from blah-blahing so much. The live broadcast was interesting.
I’m starting the morning slow and sluggish. I can’t remember my dreams. The cat puked. Twice. The crib is together and mom made mention on the internet.
It snowed last night. Wasn’t expecting that. Funny how I said I wanted rain or snow and I got both in one day. Be careful what you wish for.
I never told you about the meeting with the VP. When you said you were high in the mountains I took you at your word. So to speak. But, it went well in that fingers pressed together – hmmmm- nodding in agreement but not really listening way. I’m sure he means well but I’m still skeptical.
Tonight is dinner with A. I never did figure out mom’s Tivo request so the TV hasn’t come on once. Ahab has set sail so I keep on reading.
Not much else to tell you. Thought I had to say something to avoid nothing.
love, me

Peta

Peta = People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals.Peta

Yesterday they sent me a survey. Stuck to the survey was a fake sticky note from “Ingrid.” Designed to look like a last minute message in blue “friendly” font it read, “you have been chosen to take part in a critical national referendum. Please read this ballot and return it within 10 days. Ingrid” Thanks, Ingrid. The wiseazz in me wants to send the survey back blank with a sticky that reads, “Ingrid, I followed your instructions to the letter. I read the ballot and am sending it back.” But, I can’t do that. I can’t be that sarcastic to an organization I admire.
Back in the day my favorite place to shop for bath products was the Body Shop. I liked the “this product was not tested on animals” sticker on every bottle. I liked that it was a grass roots organization that fostered trade with third world countries. Recycled bottles, handmade Tibetan paper, banana hair masks. It all seemed so back-to-basics good, earthy and wholesome. Until I learned they sold out and the company went corporate. I didn’t trust the labels anymore.
I think I’m schizophrenic because I don’t wear fur, yet I eat meat. And when it comes to testing on animals I like to play devil’s advocate. We want scientific advances for evil things like cancer. We want cures that are 100%. We need to be able to test our scientific breakthroughs to make sure they really do work. I know testing on animals is cruel, but would you rather they strap down your 80 year old blind grandpa? What the hey, he’s gonna die anyway. Save the puppy! Grandpa a bit much? How about testing on your two year old instead!

Okay. I know I being cruel. There’s a commerical running right now about protecting animals against cruelty and everytime I see it my heart breaks. I want to run out and adopt every abused animal out there. But, researchers are caught between a rock and a hard place. I honestly don’t believe testing on cute and fuzzies happens because they’re all Dahmers inside. Yes, we are learning more about testing on cultures of human cells and the organs of donors but if you were dying of cancer would you trust this babynew research?
But, that’s only one side of the story. If researchers are testing for allergens to cosmetics, cleaning products or even worse, military warfare I am dead set against using animals. Go find the Dahmers of society and put them to good use. Seriously.

ps~ True to nonprofit form Peta sent me mailing labels and asked me to donate.
For more information about Peta, go here.