Tag: NonFiction

Soul Food

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Caldo, Enzio. Soul Food: Simple Lessons Served Warm: Kitchen Stories and Life Lessons from Chef Enzio Caldo’s Table. Lucent Trail Press, 2026.

Reason read: as a member of the Early Review Program for LibraryThing I get to review cool books. This is one such book.

While there are no recipes in Soul Food, Chef Caldo draws comparisons between cooking and navigating life. It is a really cute, whimsical book. Starters such as bruschetta and garlic bread; Comfort foods like soups and stews; mornings of pancakes and eggs; dinners, desserts, and left overs: they all become the vehicles for simple life lessons. This is the kind of little book I would give to a casual friend or acquaintance as a holiday gift. Less than 122 pages with a great deal of blank space, it is perfect for someone who wants a little pick-me-up; someone who reads their horoscope daily and looks for answers in tea leaves.

Calisthenics for Beginners

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Pure Calisthenics. Calisthenics for Beginners. 2026

Reason read: as a member of the Early Review Program for LibraryThing I am privileged to review interesting books.

Calisthenics for Beginners, although a mere 186 pages long, includes appropriate quotations from influential people, cool illustrations of the targeted areas of the body to be worked, and photographs of each exercise in action. Because the word ‘calisthenics’ has fallen out of fashion I appreciated the definition. While you won’t need weights or machines, you will need some equipment usually found at the gym or in some parks:
1) Long bar
2) Pullup bar
3) Parallel bars or a dip station
4) Jump box
5) a wall
You will be introduced to a variation of pushups, muscle-ups, chin-ups and pullups along with variations of pushups and other exercises which do not need equipment such as squats, bridges, and lunges.
As an aside, I did a doubletake on the section on handstands.
I would recommend this book to anyone wanting to start a fitness program. It is easy to follow and the exercises are straightforward.

Once Upon a Tome

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Darkshire, Oliver. Once Upon a Tome: the Misadventures of a Rare Bookseller. W,W, Norton & Company, 2023.

Reason read: gift at the AIC holiday party. My copy was signed.

While Oliver Darkshire has written other books, I am only reading Once Upon a Tome. I found it humorous and informative (Darkshire will teach you how to identify a cryptid, for one). As Darkshire goes about his day doing inventory in one of the world’s oldest bookstores, decerning what makes a book rare and dealing with the quirky customers like the Spindleman, you can smell the old books and feel the ghosts with their tucked away desks.
As an aside, the physical book of Once Upon a Tome is wonderful to hold. The cover design was by Paul Buckley after anonymous.
And a comment: I wish we lived in a world where we did not have to identified ourselves by how we loved or who we considered family. When someone has to “come out” as gay I am always asking what does that have to do with anything? I don’t walk into a room and announce my preferences. Neither should you. What does it matter who you are intimate with or who you chose to call family?

Line I liked, “The saying goes that once you’ve spent two years in the book trade, you remain there for life because you’ve become unemployable anywhere else” (p 204). Oh. So, that’s what happened to me.

Author fact: As mentioned before, Darkshire has written more than just Once Upon a Tome.

Book trivia: the numerous footnotes were super annoying. I started to skip them after some time.

Music: Wagner

Victorian Gentlewoman

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Foote, Mary Hallock. A Victorian Gentlewoman in the Far West: the Reminiscences of Mary Hallock Foote. Edited by Rodman W. Paul. Henry E. Huntington Library and Art Gallery, 1972.

Reason read: February is Women’s History Month.

Rodman W. Paul opens Victorian Gentlewoman with a promise that he has tried to recapture Foote’s autobiography in its “fullest form.” Quotes have been verified and corrected wherever possible. Misspellings and typographical errors have also been corrected. The substantial introduction to Victorian Gentlewoman also covers in detail Mary Hallock Foote’s capacity as a wife to an engineering husband whose drinking escalates out of control. All photographs and illustrations are Mary Hallock Foote’s.
Confession: as the book went on I felt Rodman mansplains a great deal. He was determine to fact check every detail of Mary Hallock Foote’s memoir. He corrects Foote’s inaccurate memories, explains geographical locations, and rights every inconsistency. I did appreciate his mini biographies. Rodman supplemented more detail to Foote’s casual reference to a person.
The first one hundred plus pages of A Victorian Gentlewoman lay the genealogic foundation of family ties, remembering dress and hair color of more notable people. Foote even includes the histories of some of the houses. In addition to Foote’s autobiography she paints a clear picture of the politics and religion (she was raised Quaker) of the time. Abolitionism and constitutional republicanism are the discussion of the day. She is well read and cultured. So, how does a “delicate” woman with a Quaker background from a farm on the Hudson River decide to travel to the western side of the country? By following her wayward husband, of course. She displays remarkable talent as a illustrator, even being commissioned to illustrate The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne. Following her husband around the country as he went from failed job to failed job afforded Foote time to become a popular author in addition to being a mother and wife.

As an aside, I think it is remarkable to think that Rudyard Kipling lived for a short time in Brattleboro, Vermont. The town is not that far from me.

Lines I liked, “I have always regarded phantasmoria of idealists and propagandists and military cranks and dreamers as one of the great opportunities of our youth shut up as we were and cut off and “laid down”!” (p 54), “We women were eaten to our souls with the horror of debt” (p 87), and “And the etchers, not being peacocks, did not view me with proud eyes because I was in borrowed feathers” (p 365).

Personal connection: I have something in common with Ms. Mary Hallock Foote. We “hide” our precious belongings so well we cannot find them again. She hid a photograph of a dear friend and I cannot find my favorite photograph of Papa.

Music: “Der Freiscutz,” and “Robert le Diable.”

Author fact: Foote was a wife, mother, novelist, artist, and insomniac who suffered from anxiety. Book trivia: Rodman W. Paul provides an extensive list of supporters, contributors, and editors.

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust in the chapter called “Companion Reads” (p 62). I am supposed to be reading Victorian Gentlewoman with Angle of Repose by Wallace Stegman. By reading the biographical note in Victorian Gentlewoman it became clear why these books were paired together. Wallace Stegner based his book Angle of Repose on the life of Mary Hallock Foote.

Old Iron Road

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Bain, David Haward. The Old Iron Road: an Epic of Rails, Roads and the Urge To Go West. Viking, 2004.

Reason read: February is Train Month. Not sure why.

Over twenty-five years ago Bain decided he needed to take his family on a two month epic journey from Vermont to California. He previously written the very successful Empire Express, researching thirty years of American train history, and the endeavor had taken fourteen years of his life. What better way to thank his family for their patience than to take them on a cross-country journey? Using the first transcontinental railroad route as a guide, the family made their way from Orwell, Vermont to San Francisco, California.
This isn’t any typical memoir about a family trip. Along the way Bain paints a vivid picture of the pioneers who went before him with mini biographies of the more famous characters like Mark Twain, Butch Cassidy and Willa Cather. He paints romantic images of the pioneers who traveled his same routes, staying in the very same towns. Bain supplies his readers with history of every region he and his family visit. Readers are apt to learn way more than they bargained for. For example, Wyoming is the Equality State because it was the first territory in the world to introduce legislation giving equal rights to women in December of 1869. Richard Francis Burton visited Chimney Rock in Nebraska. Bain revisits the Donner tragedy again and again.
The best parts were when Bain interacted with his family and shared their adventures. His family sounded wonderful.

As an aside, I was so intrigued by the Great Platte River Road Archway Monument that I looked it up on YouTube. It sounds like an amazing adventure. Note to self: exit 275.
The white crosses that dotted the sides of the highways every few miles reminded me of the southwest trip I took with my family a few years ago. I was startled to think how many people have died along the way.
Another aside, I thought Bain’s respectful treatment of Mr. Hornsby was phenomenal.
And speaking of musicians, every time Bain mentioned Southern Pacific I thought of Josh Ritter and his love of trains.

Phrase that stopped me cold, “…summer storms sometimes blew into my nightmares” (p 89). Me too.

Author fact: Bain had the travel bug from a young age. At twenty-four he drove across the country with a bunch of hippies. At the time of Old Iron Road’s publication Bain still lived in Vermont.

Book trivia: Bain includes a good mix of current and historical photographs in Old Iron Road. The ones of his family are particularly touching considering he lost his wife after the trip.

Music: Sonny Boy Williamson’s “Don’t Start Me Talking – I’ll Tell Everything I Know,” Bing Crosby, Tammy Wynette, Oak Ridge Boys, Randy Travis, Hank Williams, Bonnie Raitt, Bruce Hornsby, Grateful Dead, Willie Nelson, Huey Lewis and the News, Elton John, Bob Seger, Don Henley, Bob Dylan, Crosby, Stills & Nash, Stevie Nicks, Leon Russell, Chaka Khan, Yellowjackets, Franz Liszt, and “I’m an Old Cowhand.”

BookLust Twist: from More Book Lust in the chapter called “The Beckoning Road” (p 19).

Views Afoot

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Taylor, Bayard. Views Afoot, Or Europe Seen with a Knapsack and Staff. Sampson, Low, Martson, Low, and Searle, 1872.

Reason read: Taylor was born in January. Read in his honor.

As a teenager, Bayard Taylor was fascinated with the microcosms around him as well as the greater world he could not see. On January 1844 he got the opportunity to travel with a cousin to Europe. Sailing aboard the Oxford they traveled abroad to Europe. Once in Bruges, Taylor wrote about visiting the Cathedral of Notre Dame. I think he was referring to Onze Lieve Vrouwekerk. Taylor went on to have so many unique adventures like witnessing a burial by torchlight, dancing with friends on rooftops across Germany, traipsing through the Black Forest, and after nearly a year in Germany, moving on to Switzerland to visit an exiled poet named Freiligrath. Italy become a love of his when visiting the Royal Gallery in Florence. He spent four glorious months in Tuscany. As an aside, it was fascinating to hear Taylor’s descriptions of the same art I experienced two years ago. Most stunning is his description of an area I plan to see this May: “Colossus of the Apennines” by John of Bologna outside Florence. I wonder if you can still climb on the rocks of his back, enter his body and peer out of his ear?
Since Views Afoot is comprised of journal entries and letters sent during Taylor’s first two years of travel I did not expect to find a sense of humor, but Taylor is funny. After a night’s stay in a posh establishment Taylor was surprised by the bill and quipped he was charged three francs for “the honor of breathing an aristocratic atmosphere” (p 52).
Despite the title of his book Taylor was not always on foot. Sometimes he and his companions traveled by boat and carriage whenever necessary.
The best part of Views Afoot was the section on travel advice. You must be content to sleep on hard beds. You must be willing to partake of course fare. You must be comfortable traveling for hours in hard rain or worse. Watch your traveling expenses closely. Sounds pretty reasonable for the 1800s.

As an aside, I love it when my books collide. I am reading a book by Kavenna called The Ice Museum in which Kavanna goes searching for the mysterious land of Thule. In Views Afoot Taylor mentions a poem called “The King of Thule.”
Another aside, I want to know if the Christmas market in Romerberg Square still exists. Because if it does I would like to go.

Line I liked, “We breathed an air of poetry” (p 160). I am not even sure I know what that means, but I liked it.

Author fact: Taylor has a sense of humor. He wrote a book called Blah, Blah, Blah. Too bad I am not reading it for the Challenge. I am only reading Views Afoot.

Book trivia: my copy of Views Afoot costs eighteen pence and was first published as a “boy’s record of first travels” in 1847.

Natalie connection: Bayard visited Loch Lomond and I couldn’t help but think of the song of the same name that she sings with Dan Zanes.
Confessional: when Bayard reached Scotland and met with the McGregor family I wondered if they were related to Ewan.

Music: “Hail Columbia,” “Exile of Erin,” the Mountain Boys, Mendelssohn, “Walpurgisnacht,” “Landsfather,” Schubert, Strauss, Beethoven, “Ave Maria,”

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust To Go in the fun chapter called “Explaining Europe: The Grand Tour” (p 82). Confessional: I keep wanting to call this chapter Exploring Europe.

Composting Simplified for Beginners

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Weimer, Anissa. Composting Simplified for Beginners: A Complete Guide to Fix Common Compost Pitfalls, Create Fertile Soil and Enjoy a Lush Productive Garden. W4 Publishing LLC, 2024.

Reason read: as a member of the Early Review Program for LibraryThing I often get to read interesting books. This is one such book.
Why I Requested This Book: I have a very modest raised garden and a few containers where I grow tons of herbs, tomatoes, jalapenos, and the occasional tomatillo. I would like to expand the annual bounty.

This book is true to it’s title. Simple and to the point. Despite its beginner language and content I did learn a few things. For example, never heard of Bokashi composting before. I also never considered composting to have its own mythology, but I am glad Weimer separated fact from fiction. Additionally, I appreciated Weimer mentioning browns and greens and making sure there is an even balance of the two, but she mentions this a lot. There is a little repetition to Composting Simplified for Beginners. Weimer mentions landfill methane gas more than once and don’t get me started on how many times odors or smells were covered. She spends a lot of time addressing the potential smelliness of composting.
The most useful section (for me) was the pest prevention information. I currently deal with woodchucks, squirrels, racoons, chipmunks, rabbits, coyotes, deer, bears, voles, mice, foxes, stray dogs and cats, snakes, skunks, opossums, and even a mountain lion has been in my yard once. Knowing how to keep these critters away from my composting is critical.
The second section most useful to me was the 30 Day Checklist. Knowing when and how to start being spelled out makes the process less daunting. Watching for the different colors of mold was also helpful information.
Less helpful was all the information about involving family members. What if the reader is a single male with no children or even roommates? Least helpful were the testimonials by fellow composters. They seem to reiterate the information already given. Despite the book only being 160 pages long, I skipped these sections.

As an aside, I wasn’t sure of the purpose of the QR code to scan for the supply guide. If the information is included in the book, why do I need to download the information as well? The list of supplies looks pretty straightforward and logical: outdoor bin, indoor bin, pitchfork, thermometer, and tarp.

Author fact: Kasey Bayr’s name is on the cover while in the copyright Anissa Weimer “has the moral right to be identified as the author.”

Book trivia: there are some great photographs and illustrations to emphasize the information.

Stray

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O’Brien, Shannon. Stray. Roam Light Publishing, 2025.

Reason: as a member of the Early Review Program for LibraryThing I get to read fun books. This is one such book.

When her ex-boyfriend John committed suicide in 2006, his sudden death prompted Shannon O’Brien to live her life a little differently: she became more fully aware of life passing her by. She decided to see the world with eyes wide open and a promise to be ready for anything. For more than fifteen years she has been doing exactly that. As a Lonely Planet enthusiast she planned to to spend six months in South America, traveling through Peru, Chile, Argentina, Uruguay, and Bolivia.
Shannon kicks off Stray with her best friend and a tour of La Paz’s famous prison (and tourist attraction) where the prisoners give tours and rule the prison. In Bolivia the pair volunteer for Comunidad Inti Wara Yassi – a nonprofit deep in the jungle which cares for exotic animals of all kinds. Fun fact: O’Brien was in charge of feeding twenty spider monkeys. Next, she and a new travel companion named Noah get lost hiking in a canyon without food or water. They celebrate their survival with a trip to Argentina to rent bicycles and drink Malbec and fernet con cocoa before moving on to the Australian Outback for a year. After Noah came teaching in Nepal and experiencing the Teej festival. After meeting Xander, it’s to India in time for the Diwali festival. Her experiences in Thailand are harrowing. Then she meets Blake in Cambodia. They travel to Thailand before partying and paying for it in Portugal. Where she ended up is anyone’s guess. The story ends there.
What I appreciated most was that throughout Stray Shannon displays a deep knowledge about the cultures and histories of each region she visits. While it took me a very long to finish Stray is/was enjoyable.

As an aside, some of Shannon’s details didn’t make sense to me. For example, it seemed as if she and her family (father and sister) were staying in a little town two hours south of Bangkok. When her sister and father had a tragic swimming accident Shannon traveled between Hua Hin and a Bangkok hospital to see them. Does that mean she spent four hours a day going back and forth between the two Thai towns?

Music: The Doors, The Who, U2, Dark Angels, Los Blinkers, Fleetwood Mac, Arctic Monkeys, Backstreet Boys, “Sexual Healing,” and Keith Richards.

Valleys of the Assassins

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Stark, Freya. Valleys of the Assassins, and Other Persian Travels. Century Publishing Company, 1936.

Reason read: Stark was born in the month of January. Read in her honor.

There is no doubt that Freya wanted to live a life full of adventure that was challenging, rewarding, and more than a little dangerous. While she carried letters of introduction to give her access to key people, Freya relied heavily on her own wits to maintain her safety while in Persia. She recognized villains when she saw them. She played upon her novelty, knowing no European woman had ever been in various regions before. She would further confound the natives by putting the fragments of a skull in a jar as a keepsake or best them at their customs of all possible polite greetings and the responses one could go through. Freya demonstrated her sense of humor even when she was in sticky situations. Her attempt to find hidden treasure in a cave was both heroic and hilarious.
When people asked Freya why she wanted to travel the way that she did she blamed “the trouble” on an aunt after this relative sent Freya a copy of Arabian Nights for her 9th birthday. Freya was instantly bitten by the adventure bug. Most children would snuggle down in their beds and dream of spitting camels and endless sand, but Stark’s dreams took her to ride real camels across real deserts. Confessional: Freya never mentions camels. Her mode of transportation was a mule.
Part One takes the reader through Luristan, as it was a country where one is less frequently murdered, but the threat is not completely out of the question. As Freya maps the area for British Intelligence her actions put her in constant danger of being thought of as a spy. At the same time, Freya becomes a healer of sorts; being called upon to parse out quinine and castor oil; administer care for for snake bites, broken limbs and mysterious ailments.
Throughout Valleys of the Assassins are wonderful full page photographs. My favorite is of Keram Khan with his majestic horse and magnificent coat.

Lines I loved, “…looking at me with the calm innocence of a Persian telling lies” (p 38), “This would have proved a perfectly sound and successful theory if a buried treasure had not come to complicate my plans” (p 62) and “The study of history necessarily leads one into lonely places” (p 136).
Who knew Stark had such a sense of humor, “The great and almost only comfort to being a women is that one can always pretend to be more stupid than one in and no one is surprised” (p 67). She says this while trying to argue the truth about a lunar eclipse.
Here’s one more, “So kind is fortune if you trust her” (p 195).

Author fact: Stark wrote a plethora of books about her various adventures. I am reading a total of five for the Challenge. I have finished all but one.

Book trivia: the reprint of Valleys of the Assassins coincided with Freya’s 90th birthday and the cover is of a Garabagh carpet in detail.

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust in the chapter called “Lady Travelers” (p 142). Pearl says this is the one to read if you are only going to read one Freya Stark book.

Wrong Kind of Son

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Peace, Jeff. The Wrong Kind of Son: Salty Driftwood Publishing, 2025.

Reason read: as a member of the Early Review program for LibraryThing, I get to read heartwarming books. This is one such book.

Jeff Peace wanted nothing more than to purge the past to “[name] what it felt like.” It took real courage for him to lay it all out in the pages of Wrong Kind of Son. What started as a letter to his father turned into a book about surviving abuse. [Confessional: I also wrote a letter that turned into a publication. I only wanted my parents to understand where I was coming from without having the necessary confrontation.] Wrong Kind of Son opens with Peace wanting to connect with his father during the holidays. I say wanting because there is a sense of family obligation that cannot be ignored no matter how one tries. Father and son live thirty minutes from each other but hadn’t seen each other in a year. The connection goes badly as it always does. That is the pattern. Throughout Wrong Kind of Son Peace illustrates the anatomy of neglect without being overly dramatic or playing the martyr. There is a difference between stating simple fact and hurling blame. Peace sticks to the former. By the end of Wrong Kind of Son Peace finds the strength to break the patterns of abuse. Through other avenues of love he is able to forge a new path. His courage is astounding.

As an aside, this is my third early review book about a narcissistic parent. By reading the stories of backhanded compliments, off-color jokes, and empty promises my own story has become clearer.

Author fact: Peace is a thoughtful author. He has a disclaimer about the abuse depicted in Wrong Kind of Son, urging his readers to take care.

Book trivia: there were so many brilliant lines I wanted to quote. Intelligence without empathy is a good one. Hope being a habit is another.

Music: Nickelback

Ice Museum

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Kavenna, Joanna. The Ice Museum: In Search of the Lost Land of Thule. Viking, 2006.

Reason read: I read somewhere that the Shetland Viking Fire Festival takes place every January.

Kavenna blames her obsession with Thule on Pytheas, stating he began the story when he claimed he had been to the mythical land of Thule by way of Marseilles. But what or where exactly is Thule? Is it a place of barren rocks, howling winds, and flinty skies? Is it a Nazi organization, a secret society borne out of prejudices and hate? Is it an ancient calling to barbaric Vikings and long-forgotten mythologies? Kavenna travels the globe looking for answers. She meets with the former president of Estonia, Lennart Meri, searching for the true Thule. She travels to a former Thule settlement in Greenland and talks with scientists about global warming and the threat to the region’s polar bears.
Throughout Kavenna’s journey her descriptions of the landscape and people are stunning. Her words crackle with the cold and demonstrate the warmth of the people.
Eye opening moment: I guess I never thought about it before. Nazis believed Iceland was the cradle of Germanic culture. That makes sense with the blond hair, blue eyes, and fair skin of its residents.

Favorite description of Iceland, “A land like a disaster film, a natural gore-flick- the country scattered with the innards of the earth” (p 68).
Here is another line I liked, “the past and the future lurked at the edges of the day time dusk” (p 288).

Author fact: even as a small child Kavenna was urging her parents to travel with her.

Book trivia: there are no photographs or illustrations of any king in The Ice Museum. Not even the author has representation.

Music: “I Do Like to be Beside the Seaside.”

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust To Go in the chapter called “Sheltering in the Shetlands” (p 204).

Selfish Gene

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Dawkins, Richard. The Selfish Gene. Oxford University Press, 1976.

Reason read: every January people make resolutions all about bettering themselves. It’s all about them. In honor of those “it’s all about me” resolutions I am reading a book about being selfish and the explanation for why.

Richard Dawkins wants you to ignore the word selfish in his book’s title and concentrate more on the word gene. He confessed that “misunderstandings of Darwinism” are what originally “provoked” him to write The Selfish Gene. [Point of view: At the time of publication he was a professor at Oxford University and considered The Selfish Gene a “new” way of looking at ourselves. Keep in mind Dawkins wrote The Selfish Gene fifty years ago.] Like a chef laying out a beautifully set table before his meal, Dawkins takes care to define the words selfish and altruistic. He wants to make sure you are grounded in the facts he is about to present before you. He is careful to explain how words get lost in translation. For example, take the Septuagint – Hebrew for young woman into Greek for virgin and what transpires is the virgin giving birth to a holy son.
Dawkins repeatedly uses the word “simplified” to assure his readers that he has dumbed down his scientific subject matter as much as he could without turning The Selfish Gene into a See Jane Run book for toddlers. He uses humor and folksy language to further put his reader at ease. Fear not! This is a good book.

Quote to quote, “For instance a ion wants to eat an antelope’s body, but the antelope has very different plans for its body” (p 89).

Author fact: Dawkins published seven books after The Selfish Gene. I am reading one more, The Blind Watchmaker. At the time of publication, Dawkins was working on the computer simulation of cricket song to determine the basis of female attraction.

Book trivia: as an aside, Dawkins tells a story about the underground “parasol” ants of South America. They live in colonies of over two million and live deep underground.

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust in the chapter called “Genuine Genes” (p 96).

Reinvention Playbook

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Wozniak, Bruno. The Reinvention Playbook: Self Published, 2025.

Reason read: as a member of the Early Review program from LibraryThing every once in awhile I get to read interesting books.

In a nutshell, The Reinvention Playbook is about navigating the loss of a job and all that that end entails. It is about rebuilding a new identity outside of what the job made you. Is it possible to find meaningful employment and emotional connection after ending a self-defining career? Wozniak urges his readers to try, try, try. It is all about moving forward, one baby step at a time. At times I found the advice to be a little repetitious with emotional signatures: disorientation, low energy, aligned with the adverse of curiosity and confidence.
I appreciated his phrase “identity earthquake” for when a job ends, it truly is a restructuring of everything you knew about yourself. Think about it. You spend a solid eight hours a day as one entity. That is a good chunk of time. Routines are established; a rhythm solidified. You need to reconcile the inside voice with the outside noise. Do not let the fear of urgency create chaos before you have had a chance to heal. You have to let go of who you were before you lost the job and take note of what remains after the work is gone. The diagnostics are sometimes hard to decipher if you do not know how to read the emotional cues or cannot resist the urge to stay busy. Wozniak’s book enables you to navigate those efforts to rebuild.

Author fact: I instantly connected with Wozniak’s example of running. Without the analytics to “prove” the effort, is it worth it? Can you go for a run without tracking pace, distance, heart rate, route?

Book trivia: The Reinvention Playbook is best read after losing employment as a tool for grounding yourself in reality, but what happens if you read the book with one eye on the approaching cliff you just know you are going to fall from? Would you read the book differently if you were secure in your employment or foresaw no immediate danger?

Something Else

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Simko, Lukas. Something Else: Words that Remember, Stories that Awaken. Independent Publicist, 2025.

Reason read: as part of the Early Review Program for LibraryThing I get to read books that sometimes move me. This is one of those books.

The fastest review I could write about Something Else is to say it is a memoir about an individual wanting to find true love. Lukas Simko’s story begins when he is a thirty-two year old graduate looking for work. He meets a girl who over time showed all the classic signs of an abuser. She was controlling and manipulative and I found myself wishing he would have seen the signs earlier. Right away I felt Simko is someone who has the potential to fall hard and fast for a romantic relationship. He believes in taking chances and embracing adventure wherever it may take him.
Then there was Macy. She was clear she did not an emotional relationship, but Lukas started to like her more and more “without permission.” Interesting choice of words. This time around Simko noticed the signs of a relationship dying as Macy started to distance herself from him.
Next came Jaya. Lukas felt an instant connection with her for they had a great deal in common and almost seemed to be soul mates. She even took him in as a roommate without really knowing him. Once again Lukas became involved with a woman who did not want to be tied down with anything emotional. To say Jaya was complicated is an understatement. She often sent mixed signals and seemed to be confused about what she really wanted from Simko. One minute she was communicating as if she cared deeply; the next she felt it necessary to block Simko on social media (twice).
In the end, Simko emerged a stronger person. He was able to see the beauty in each failed relationship. As an aside, I think of it as the particle theory. You get what you need from each relationship whether that relationship withstands the test of time or not.

Confessional: I did not understand Ireland’s employment situation. Lukas requested three weeks off under the guise of taking care of a grandmother. Instead, he was rewarded with 3 1/2 months off, but the kicker was he had to go on leave when they told him to. I thought he was working in a remote IT position.
A more personal confessional: Simko went four months without talking to Jaya. Try five years! That’s how long I went without speaking to someone who meant the world to me.

As an aside, I learned a new word, “craic.”

Music: “Misty Mountains” by Leyna Robinson-Stone.

Long Marriage

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Kumin, Maxine. The Long Marriage. W.W. Norton and Company, 2002.

Reason read: I read somewhere that January 26th is Marriage Day.

In The Long Marriage Maxine Kumin is keen to describe what she sees in the viewfinder of life. She stares down uncomfortable topics like suicide and crime with unflinching clarity. From the community of Grays Point to gardening to the struggle of rehabilitation after an accident. She even reflects on her own injuries from being thrown from a horse: punctured lung, eleven broken ribs, and a bruised liver…just to name a few. Her poems are life jumping off the page and, dare I say, into your heart.
Poems I enjoyed the most:

  • Skinny dipping with William Wordsworth – remembering her days as a Radcliffe student, studying Wordsworth. She paints a picture of a passionate youth and the aftermath of a romance long cooled by time and war.
  • Thinking of Gorki While Clearing a Trail – Who is Saturnine Gorki? 1929 International Congress of Atheists.
  • Imagining Marianne Moore in the Butterfly Garden – another beautiful tribute.
  • Capital Punishment – why are we allowed to see gruesome mutilations (the victims of Sierra Leone) and yet spared the benign execution of Benny Demps?
  • Rilke Revisited – another ode to a great writer.
  • Why There Will Always Be Thistle – I need to read this to my husband. He can’t stand thistles.
  • Pantoum, with Sawn – ode to Helen of Troy
  • Calling out of Gray’s Point – charming poem about Purvis, the phone repair man who has been trying to fix the line.
  • The Exchange – line I liked the best: “the neophyte animal psychic who visits my barn at midday”…okay.
  • Highway Hypothesis – imagining the neighbors.
  • Game of Nettles – confessional: while Kumin is remembering a childhood game of playing with nettles, I have a darker reminiscing. I can remember being five or six years and being whipped with nettles by the much older boys. Oh how they laughed.

Author fact: Maxine Kumin was friends with Anne Sexton.

Book trivia: there is a beautiful picture of the author and her husband and their dogs. Kumin’s dedication to Victor, “on the dark lake” is beautiful, too.

Natalie connections: In Miss Merchant’s song, “Sister Tilly” she talks about the kind of woman who reads Rilke poems. Kumin has a poem about Rilke.
Natalie was the first person to introduce me to the poems of Gerard Manley Hopkins. Kumin quotes him in The Long Marriage.

Confessional: Peter Gabriel celebrated the album So by doing an anniversary tour. I could not think of the poet to whom he dedicated “—.” All I could remember was the line, “Anne with her father is out in the boat.” Kumin mentions Anne Sexton by name. Mystery solved…although I could have just looked at the liner notes.

Music: Pee Wee Russell, Jack Teagarden, Erroll Garner, and Glenn Miller.

BookLust Twist: from Book Lust in the chapter called “Prose by Poets” (p 194).